tea for two
so...another "date" today. i don't actually know if tea and toast counts as a date, but whatever. my life is complicated and routinized so sometimes the only time i have free is lunch. anyway, so this was someone i had emailed with for a while, lots of emails a day, all that rot. we didn't exchange pictures, which was fine. i had a vague idea, and so did he, which was refreshing. having someone ask for your measurements right out of the gate is a bit annoying. it was fun, he was into me, i'm sure he'll call.
the thing is, where do men get their attractiveness scale? seriously. i have had so many men say they were attractive, very attractive, etc. and then i see them and i think "meh. he's all right, but very attractive? i'm thinking NO." i don't get it. this guy said that he was attractive enough to make my girlfriends jealous. so i'm thinking, right on, a true hottie. yeah, not so much. not that he was fugly or anything, but, i don't think most of my girlfriends would try to poach him when i went to the bathroom. (not that they're like that, but you know what i mean.) i don't know. is it that their mothers always told them how handsome they were and they think all women will think it's true? is it that there is not the societal pressure to look a certain way? what is with some old fat bastard thinking he can hit on a young hot girl? it just does not make sense to me.
there is a guy at work who is great. very intelligent, sensitive, kind, all that. he is also almost the same age as my dad, and let's be honest, not hot. i love him though, he's a good friend of mine, don't get me wrong. but because he and i are some of the only single people there, he and a lot of other people assumed we would get together. he was actually a little offended that i didn't come on to him. what is with that? someone else is convinced that we are secretly seeing eachother. i'm sorry, but that is just insulting. just on the basis of our age difference it's insulting, but then you add in that he's significantly over weight (i'm a petite girl, i have a fear of overweight men smothering me during sex, sorry) and not my type at all, and it's just downright rude. it offended me when i heard that people thought that. am i shallow? maybe a little. or maybe i'm just realistic. but i am an attractive woman, and i'm only 31. why on earth would i go out with a man who has a hundred pounds and over 20 years on me? i don't get it. i just really don't.
anyway, slam me now for being superficial or whatever, but there is a limit. i would not date someone as old, or even in the same decade as my father, no matter how hot, rich, or whatever he was. it's just too gross. not to mention that any man over 40 is not going to be able to keep up with me in bed. period.
the thing is, where do men get their attractiveness scale? seriously. i have had so many men say they were attractive, very attractive, etc. and then i see them and i think "meh. he's all right, but very attractive? i'm thinking NO." i don't get it. this guy said that he was attractive enough to make my girlfriends jealous. so i'm thinking, right on, a true hottie. yeah, not so much. not that he was fugly or anything, but, i don't think most of my girlfriends would try to poach him when i went to the bathroom. (not that they're like that, but you know what i mean.) i don't know. is it that their mothers always told them how handsome they were and they think all women will think it's true? is it that there is not the societal pressure to look a certain way? what is with some old fat bastard thinking he can hit on a young hot girl? it just does not make sense to me.
there is a guy at work who is great. very intelligent, sensitive, kind, all that. he is also almost the same age as my dad, and let's be honest, not hot. i love him though, he's a good friend of mine, don't get me wrong. but because he and i are some of the only single people there, he and a lot of other people assumed we would get together. he was actually a little offended that i didn't come on to him. what is with that? someone else is convinced that we are secretly seeing eachother. i'm sorry, but that is just insulting. just on the basis of our age difference it's insulting, but then you add in that he's significantly over weight (i'm a petite girl, i have a fear of overweight men smothering me during sex, sorry) and not my type at all, and it's just downright rude. it offended me when i heard that people thought that. am i shallow? maybe a little. or maybe i'm just realistic. but i am an attractive woman, and i'm only 31. why on earth would i go out with a man who has a hundred pounds and over 20 years on me? i don't get it. i just really don't.
anyway, slam me now for being superficial or whatever, but there is a limit. i would not date someone as old, or even in the same decade as my father, no matter how hot, rich, or whatever he was. it's just too gross. not to mention that any man over 40 is not going to be able to keep up with me in bed. period.
posted by j @ 3:40 PM
1 Comments:
At 4:46 PM,
XeroND said…
Maybe this particular man has bad friends. Similar to the bad friends American Idol contestants have. They get up there with such an air of confidence (their friends having always told them how wonderful they sound) and make complete fools of themselves.
Physical attractiveness in and of itself can be superficial. However, there must be some level of attraction...right? And sometimes that's the only way to begin the process of getting to know another human being.
Just my 3 cents.
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